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Why are we rarely satisfied with what we have?
by LaTonya Taylor

A magazine landed in the mailbox today, and I find myself flopped on my bed, slowly turning its pages. I keep hoping I get to the articles soon, but I find myself wading through page after page of. … stuff. First, a model in "dangerously low" low-rise jeans poses in front of a vintage car. Then, a nail polish advertisement promises me a "rainbow in every bottle." A group of well-dressed, smiling friends frolic under a hot air balloon, and they all happen to be wearing clothes they purchased on the same website. Hmmm.

Finally, I get to the articles, but there's even more stuff here. One story is about which cargo pants I should be wearing. Another story features shoes, bags and jeans that are "in" right now. There are plenty of articles on what to wear, what to put on my hair and face, and cool stuff for my room.

Sometimes I feel like ads and commercials do more than make me interested in trying a new product. In some ways, they make me feel a little less content with what I have. A little dissatisfied with the clothes I've got in my closet.

A little like something new would make me happier.

I'm not really trashing articles on the latest fashions or cool stuff to own. I don't have a problem with companies making advertisements and commercials to sell their products. And I don't think there's anything wrong with being interested in the latest fashions, the newest DVD players or the hottest cars around.

But I do worry sometimes about the way these ads affect me. If I don't pay attention, I can get the wrong idea about what's really important. Even though I say money and things can't make me happy, my actions and the way I spend my money might tell a different story. And what if I'm so interested in having new things that I never have any money to save or to give to God?

Does God Care?
So why should I be concerned about this? The fact is, God cares very much about the way I use what he's given me. In God & Your Stuff, author Wesley Willmer points out that 17 of Jesus' 38 parables were about money! The Bible mentions possessions 2,172 times. Money and possessions definitely matter to God.

Even though it's OK to like nice things, it's not a good idea to take it too far. The Bible points out that materialism is a dangerous disease. Solomon, the writer of Ecclesiastes, said, "Whoever loves money [and things] never has money enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income" (5:10). Solomon knew what he was talking about! If we are too focused on having things, we can get to the point where we're never satisfied. We'll always want a new backpack, tickets to another concert or whatever people at school are wearing. Maybe we'll even take on more hours at our jobs than we can handle—letting our schoolwork and church activities slide so we can earn a little more cash. Or perhaps we'll work really hard in school and shoot for a college major that will make us more money so we can buy more stuff.

Have you noticed that the more stuff you have, the more time you have to spend taking care of that stuff? Cars have to be vacuumed, filled with gas and serviced regularly. Clothes have to be washed or dry-cleaned, ironed and repaired. CDs have to be organized. Sometimes, taking care of things makes you realize that these objects God provided for our use can own us—we only think we own them!

TV commercials are right about one thing: having something new can feel good! When I'm feeling a little down, a new CD or a new shirt can be a fun pick-me-up. But if I use new things to give me confidence instead of turning to God, I can start to depend on things to make me feel like I have worth—instead of remembering that my worth comes from the fact that God made me and loves me.

Plus, I know that if I'm not content with the stuff I already own, having more stuff isn't going to help. (See Philippians 4:11-13.)

To Buy or not to Buy
So, am I ready to sell all of my stuff and give the money to the poor? Have I decided that I'll never go to the mall again? Uh, no. I'm not saying that we shouldn't ever go shopping for fun, or that it's wrong to have more than one coat. But we should remember that God has given us everything we have, whether it's extra babysitting money, a check from a job, or birthday cash from Grandma. How we spend our money is important to him. Jesus taught that we can know the condition of our hearts by thinking about what we treasure. He warned that we can't serve God totally and be obsessed with having more stuff at the same time (Matthew 6:21,24).

So what's the answer? I'm learning to think carefully when I see an ad, or when I see something on a commercial I'd like. I try to ask myself questions like these:

  • Have I given money to God's work?

  • Have I saved some money?

  • Is this something I need, or something I want?

  • If it's something I want, should I wait until later or save for it?

  • Why do I want this? Do I want to impress somebody? Am I trying to make myself happier? Do I think having this will fill up some "hole" that only God can fill?

I'm learning to pray about my money, clothes, and other things, too. After all, God promises to provide for my needs (Philippians 4:19). I'm also trying to be more grateful for what I have. I know I can count on his help to get my wants under control. I know that he wants me to seek his kingdom (Matthew 6:33). He wants to help me. … even more than I want a new pair of shoes I saw at the mall last weekend.

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June/July 2003, Vol. 62, No. 3, Page 32
 
American idolatry? Competition, singing and communicating values PDF  | Print |  E-mail

By Vaughan Hayden

Note: Last January, CPYU President Walt Mueller taught a graduate class on understanding and analyzing contemporary youth culture at the Evangelical School of Theology in Myerstown, Pennsylvania. As part of their coursework, students were required to complete a final project on a contemporary pop culture phenomena. We thought we’d pass on one of those projects to our readers. We trust that Vaughan Hayden’s insights will give you something to talk about with the “American Idol” fans you know and love.

“American Idol” is sweeping the nation. It consistently receives the highest ratings of any show on television, especially among youth and young adults. It launches careers and catapults otherwise unknowns to unimaginable heights. And it captivates our teens. It is a cultural phenomenon that does not appear to be going away, but is instead setting the trend and agenda for many other shows that hope to capture the same hysteria and success. But is it something that should cause concern or celebration? Is something that is so pervasive in our culture innately good or something to be feared? Are there spiritual ramifications of a simple television talent show? With so many of our youth watching and becoming vested in the “Idol” experience, it is a subject that must be broached.

What is “American Idol?”

It all started in England in 2001 with a hit TV show called “Pop Idol.” The show was a singing competition that allowed the viewers at home to interactively choose the winner. Its success in Britain prompted the widely successful spin-off “American Idol” in June 2002. The show is a cross between a talent show, a game show and a reality show. However, what sets it apart is the interactive feature of allowing viewers to actually choose the winners and losers each week.

For those who may not have seen it, this is not your ordinary reality show. It begins with open auditions in several cities across the United States, with willing contestants between the ages of 16 and 28 vying for the attention of the judges—Randy Jackson, Paula Abdul and Simon Cowell. These judges each have a unique perspective and offer different types of criticism or support to those lucky enough to audition for them. If at least two of the three judges approve of the auditioner, they are granted a “golden ticket to Hollywood” where all the survivors from the first round are put through a week of skill tests that allow the field of candidates to be further narrowed. At the end of the week the number is cut to 40 hopefuls, of which only 24 will get the opportunity to sing for America. Everyone is then sent home, with the 40 having to return for a final judgment at a date closer to the airing of the live portions of the show.

After the field is finally narrowed to 24—12 male and 12 female—each of the contestants gets an opportunity to sing in front of a live audience, the judges and America’s TV sets, hoping to garner enough support to make it to the next week. Each of the first three weeks of the live shows weeds out two males and two females until the “top 12 finalists” have been determined. Some say this is where the show officially begins, as those who make it to the Top 10 will have contractual obligations to sing on records and appear on a tour, regardless of where they officially place in the competition.

The show then moves to a larger venue and each week challenges the contestants with a different theme or style of music to perform. After the performances, America again votes for their favorite performer and the one who gets the least amount of votes is eliminated from the competition. This continues until the winner is crowned amidst much pomp and circumstance. The winner is guaranteed a record contract and—due to the already established fan base—instant success.

While that may be a simplistic overview of the show in its current format (the format has changed somewhat since its debut), “American Idol” is really two entirely different shows. The basic show is the talent competition in which the “American Idol” is crowned, but the audition shows are not really about talent at all but about notoriety. The audition shows do not simply feature the best talent that is granted the “ticket to Hollywood” but usually highlight and accentuate the weird or unbelievably bad “talents” in America. They unashamedly embarrass and destroy contestants for the joy of the viewer, and millions tune in to see what humiliating lengths some people will go to for a chance at two minutes of television exposure.

How do we evaluate this phenomenon?

Obviously, to become and to stay the number one show in America, it has to attract and keep viewers. So what is the attraction? The allure of the show for the contestants is obvious. By getting up and going to an audition one day you can go from obscurity to being an “American Idol.” Yet, what makes the talent portion of the show so successful is its interactivity. Viewers know that their opinion matters as they choose the contestants they want to succeed. They may not want another Britney Spears, Jay-Z or P-Diddy singing and dancing for their entertainment. Or they may want someone in one of those genres, but, the point is, they get to choose. They also get to play the role of a music critic, and have their opinions either validated or contradicted by either the judges’ opinions or the popular vote. In any case, they get a chance to participate in their own entertainment.

Yet what is so appealing about the embarrassment that highlights the audition rounds? Perhaps Andrew Corsello has found the answer when he cites the almost pornographic nature of the audition room as he remarks, “one found it irresistible at the same time one knew that it was probably bad for humanity.” He decries the naked shame that each contestant puts themselves through with the innocent belief that they really are good, yet the whole country is there to watch the ruination that results when the words come, “You are ghastly. There cannot possibly be a worse singer.”

Yet before the sympathy for the plight of these youth takes hold, Corsello admits the real draw: “Heartbreaking as those deluded kids were, their public evisceration aroused in me, and, I’m sure, in other viewers, a deep predatory instinct to expose and destroy true believers, pretenders—anyone who would dare to rise above the rest of us lumpen.”

Herein is the real draw, the idea that we can celebrate someone else’s downfall instead of our own. We celebrate their ruination knowing, most importantly, that it wasn’t us; and that as bad as we may be, we are not that bad, for we have never been embarrassed on national TV.

This is a big connecting factor with youth, who are immersed in a postmodern culture that is rife with nihilism and the belief they are nothing. So in a way the idea that someone is worse than they are is therapeutic, although not healthy. Also, this public embarrassment registers as a form of violence, psychological violence, which, as Corsello remarks, “scars more deeply” than physical violence. And as difficult as it may be to watch, this connects with many youth who often bear their own scars of psychological violence and emotional pain.

In fairness, some of the “awful” singers that appear on the audition shows seem to do so at their own peril, or is it their own pleasure? Psychologist Debbie Then agrees, saying, “The goal for many singers is just that one TV appearance.” She continues, “Even if they get cut, at least they were on ‘Idol.’ And if I know them … then a little bit of fame has touched me, too.” This points to another reason why this show is so popular: its ability to make people famous.

Youth are enthralled with fame. Simon Cowell, often considered “the most obnoxious judge in America that everyone agrees with,” remarks, “There is an insane desire to be more controversial and famous than you need to be.” Youth want to be noticed. Jake Halpern, author of the book Fame Junkies, remarks how the desire for fame crosses over demographic lines and infuses all of America. He remarks, “Fame is an equal-opportunity tantalizer.” His book focuses on the desire of youth and children to make it big, and the money they and their parents will spend in order to pursue those dreams. In many ways “American Idol” capitalizes on the already celebrity-obsessed culture that has been created, while at the same time feeds the culture by creating more celebrities to obsess over.

The most pervasive aspect of “American Idol” is the talent show. The ability to help make a superstar is breathtaking. Often, this connects with youth who feel they have the same amount of talent as those who make it through. They have the opportunity to dream about making it next year. This year’s contestants featured some who had been turned down before but came back and this time went further, thus increasing the optimism that hard work and persistence can truly pay off. These are themes that can be applauded. But what usually drives this desire to be an “American Idol” is not simply the desire to be a respected hard working artist, but the desire to be wealthy. In fairness, that seems to be the driving factor behind most of those who pursue the American dream, but is that a value we should applaud or support?

How should we respond?

“American Idol” has much that can be celebrated. As already noted, some people who pursue this dream persist, train and work hard to be successful. This attitude of instilling and creating a work ethic that says “if you want something, you will have to work for it” is a good thing.

Also, “American Idol” purposely tries to choose music or a style of music that not only stretches the contestants, but that will appeal to a large spectrum in the audience. In other words, they shy away from music that divides people and focuses on music that has stood the test of time. This allows the show to be more “family friendly.”

In comparison with other shows that are on television during the same time slot, it should be noted that the show contains no gratuitous sex or violence, and purposely tries to filter out any words or even innuendos that may be inappropriate for young children. It also does not seem overly obsessed with choosing “perfect” people based on their appearance, although there have been several contestants who have been ridiculed because of their looks. While the show does not purport to be Christian in nature, they have featured at least one contemporary Christian song. In general, the show can be very entertaining.

However, there are many potential pitfalls, most of which easily can be overcome if the proper framework is set. The most obvious, due to the title of the show, is the concept of idolatry. While few if any people would actually bow down to these celebrities, in many ways they become idols that we have made, much like those Isaiah refers to that the Assyrians made with their own hands (Isaiah 44:9-20). Although our American Idols are not wooden statues, they have been granted power to influence our lives because we have given it to them. We have put them on this pedestal; we have chosen or fashioned our idol to our likeness. We have determined whose music appeals to us, whose personality we respond to, who we would prefer to spend our time looking at, and who we will spend money to see and hear.

While it may seem like a stretch, just walking through any middle or high school will let you know that kids truly do idolize and desire to emulate various celebrities. Current Events magazine’s article about celebrity obsession remarked, “Stars have become heroes, role models, modern-day gods.” This can become especially dangerous when the “gods” fall, as evidenced by the devotees of Kurt Cobain who followed his suicide with their own. Youth are especially susceptible to idol worship, as celebrities fill the “hero” void that used to be filled by their parents and teachers. They live in a media-saturated society where, as Walt Mueller states, “For those without positive input from parents and other adults, the media is a surrogate parent.” The legacy of our broken families leaves a generation looking for heroes where ever they can find them.

This brokenness also may be behind the desire for fame that is one of the reasons so many young people flock to the auditions. They want to be noticed, perhaps even famous. Robert Thompson, a psychologist from Syracuse University believes, “this desire [for fame] is very human. We all desire attention.” Many youth, even in Christian families, suffer from the results of broken relationships within their families, their circle of friends and the culture at large. This leaves them feeling unnoticed and unimportant. Mueller records the lines of a poem written by a teenager to her parents that captures this thought: “Somehow I lost my mouth, Somehow you lost your ears.” The quest and pursuit of fame allows one to regain their mouth, even if it is someone else who is listening.

Along with the desire to be famous comes the desire to be wealthy. Youth are taught at an early age, mostly by the advertisers that they see in their media-saturated society, that they need to keep up with the Jones family. Advertisers go to great pains to reach this young market, because they recognize the influence they have on their parents, as well as the benefit of creating brand loyalty at a young age. Added to the marketing influence is the unprecedented amount of discretionary income youth have to spend. Once they become accustomed to spending money at will, they have a difficult time dealing with the responsibilities of growing up and they realize they need more money to continue their lifestyle. Hence, they need to be rich. It is best defined by the “entertainers and celebrities who unapologetically revel in being rich, mindful of their obligation to live out the fantasies of the rest of us.” Hence, the symbiotic relationship between the desire to be rich, and the desire to be famous.

Spiritual touch points

The question becomes, “What is the main issue behind these pitfalls?” The answer for so many of our youth is the spiritual vacuum. There is an emptiness they are trying to fill, and they try to fill it with the things of this world, because for many of them, that is all they know. Their lives are filled with brokenness. What they need cannot be found on “American Idol,” for only God can fill the emptiness inside. Therefore, to avoid these pitfalls, a Christian worldview is required, one that believes that God can fill the emptiness that postmodern culture has created.

Regarding the first pitfall, idol worship, the most obvious corrective is to help youth put these celebrities in the proper context. Youth need to understand that every person is of equal value in the eyes of God; celebrities are not more valuable than anyone else (Acts 10:34). In particular, they need to understand that their value is not based on what they can do (i.e., sing). They are valuable because of who they are (Psalm 139:14).

Secondly, their desire to be famous is a misplaced desire to be important, to be needed or wanted. Youth need to understand that God loves them, desires them and seeks after them (John 3:16; Romans 5:8; Luke 19:10; Isaiah 62:12). They need to know they are important to Him and have been called by Him for a purpose (2 Thessalonians 2:14, 1 Timothy 2:9). But mostly, they need to understand the definition of greatness is not found in how popular one may be, but in how useful one is (Mark 10:42-45).

The third pitfall of wealth is really a symptom of the basic issue—the God-shaped hole. Youth must realize that wealth can never satisfy the longing that only God can. Solomon, who was arguably the richest man in the world during his time, realized this (Ecclesiastes 2:1-2, 10-11, 5:10-11). His discovery actually covers most of the pitfalls, for he realized that all the things that he had been chasing after, just like the things that our youth chase after are truly meaningless and empty. They cannot fill what only God can. Solomon concludes the end of the matter is simply to fear God and follow his commands. That is the only thing that provides fulfillment. Jesus addresses this in His Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 6. After discussing all the things that people then (as now) chase after he declares, “seek first for the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” God will provide what you need, if your focus is on Him and not on things.

Conclusion

“American Idol” is a phenomenon for many reasons. While it is good entertainment in many ways, there are a few pitfalls that it may promote of which the discerning parent should be aware. With the proper understanding of the issues that youth are facing, and the proper tools for working through these issues, the show can not only be an enjoyable respite from a hectic day, but an opportunity to process the values of the world we live in. By understanding the perspective of our younger generation perhaps we can help them to see the world through a different view, a Christian worldview.

Vaughan Hayden is a former youth director, who is currently the pastor of Hopewell UMC in Port Deposit, Md., and the father of two boys.

The Center for Parent/Youth Understanding grants permission for this article to be copied in its entirety, provided the copies are distributed free of charge and the copies indicate the source as the Center for Parent/Youth Understanding.

For more information on resources to help you understand today’s rapidly changing youth culture, contact the Center for Parent/Youth Understanding.

©2007, The Center for Parent/Youth Understanding

 
3D Review PDF  | Print |  E-mail

CPYU has developed this handy tool to help youth workers and parents work alongside their kids to help them process the music they listen to and make wise media choices.  The guide walks you through the 3-D's of Discover, Discern, and Decide.  With practice, you will begin to listen to music more critically, analyze the messages you  hear,  weigh them against Biblical standards, then decide whether the music should be a part of your musical diet.  While originally intended for music, the format is easily adaptable to all other media, such as film, television, and video games.

Check out the CPYU 3D Reviews page for some 3-D reviews that they have written on songs, videos, movies, television shows, and print ads from magazines.  These will give you an example of how to use the 3-D Guide with your kids or members of your youth group.

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